Being Polite

As you know I pick up my son and 2 of his classmates from the grammar school and cart them and their instruments to the junior high for band.

You will notice that I say classmates. They are not what I would call friends. They basically shun my son but they're not necessarily mean either--that I know of.

You may recall I had a run-in with one of them and his mother, the kid, my son and I had a little sit-down to talk about things. I thought it was taken care of.

Today they came to the car and I said hi. My son said hi and the other two said nothing. The kid who was mean to my son was whispering something in the back. Whispering. How flipping rude is that.

I started giving them juice boxes because I know they're thirsty and at first they said "thank you." Today I didn't get that. So I said, "You're welcome." Nothing. Finally, I asked them for a thank you and then they said it.

Ok. Fine.

I asked them how their day was.

No response.

I asked them again, thinking they didn't hear.

"Good." More whispering.

Really.

And so you know, the whispering is not directed at my son.

I drop them off, they get their stuff. They don't say a word on the ride there. I say outloud, "You're welcome."

Then and only then do they say thank you.

I slow down to check that they get in and they are looking at me. I wasn't mad before but now I am.

I understand that I am the mom of a kid that they don't necessarily like or hang around. Is it wrong or unreasonable to expect a doggone thank you? And isn't whispering in the car rude?