Harrey the youngest sprained his ankle and was on crutches for about two weeks. Fun times. His crutches were almost as tall as his older sister. He missed the last two games of soccer and the rest of cross country.
He tried out for 8th grade volley ball and surprisingly made it, even though he had missed a week of practice and a game. He has been doing well but recently jammed his finger. That topped with the stress of high school placement and a binder left at school made the perfect storm. Food and tea and a little understanding helped. I convinced his big brother to talk to him--big news in our house.
Speaking of big brother, we are in the throes of college decision. Essays. Auditions. Nerves. Egos. It's all there. What's not all there, again, is homework. He blew off or forgot or both homework and has once again pulled his grades down. He said that he is catching up. I don't know. I do not go online to see what he is doing. I don't trust him, no, but he is a senior. He is tanking. He has talked to his high school counselor and that seems to be helping.
I cannot do the work for him and I cannot bail him out. Recently, I read blog about a mother who is going through an almost identical situation. While our Ronn is not on an IEP or any type of help, the post reflects something we discovered about his life.
We've ALL babied him. His teachers. His friends. His family. I've worked so doggone hard to get him to be a little more independent but in many ways he is emotionally immature.
Case in point.
Ronn organized a open mike at our church. He worked with the youth pastor and pastor to get the room. He talked to people and got some friends to play. He has been practicing with his own band and they sound great.
He did NOT share this with his parents. No date. No time. AND.......he promised people that there would be food and drink.
How is he getting his stuff to the church? What kind of food did he promise? How is HE going to PAY for this, considering he doesn't have a job? How long will this be? Who is going to clean up afterwards? Have we confirmed that his friends will be there?
You know, little things. My husband was so angry that he wanted him to pull the show. Ronn is lucky that I didn't let him. He has been talked to strongly but I don't know if it's enough.
Hermionie has overbooked herself once again. It is showing up physically; stomach aches, exhaustion, muscle and back problems.
We have tried to let her regulate her schedule and it is a huge fail. Next year is junior year; the year of the ACT. Activities will be dropped and started back in senior year. At least that is the plan.
Next time, I'll write about me.